Be Curious, Not Judgmental....
"Be curious, not judgmental." Walt Whitman
Do you have any friends that are not judgmental? Do you realize how hard it is to find someone like that? Most of us have grown up in a world where we feel our opinion of things is important and especially feel our opinion of others and what they are doing is spot on. Guess what... it is not. We cannot walk in someone else's shoes to know what has made up all the experiences they have had in life. It is not our business if someone choses to leave work early or take a longer lunch. If a co-worker or even a family member lashes out at you, you still should not judge them because you have no clue what set up their day or week to culminate into anger.
"Psychologist and meditation teacher Tara Brach (link is external) frequently tells this story: Imagine you are walking through the woods and you see a small dog. It looks cute and friendly. You approach and move to pet the dog. Suddenly it snarls and tries to bite you. The dog no longer seems cute and you feel fear and possibly anger. Then, as the wind blows, the leaves on the ground are carried away and you see the dog has one of its legs caught in a trap. Now, you feel compassion for the dog. You know it became aggressive because it is in pain and is suffering." 10 reasons not to judge
Biblically speaking there are quite a few favorite quotes on judging others. The one I will share is below. I encourage you to live in the now and truly be concerned about your thoughts and actions and not those of others.
YOUR OPINION DOES NOT MATTER, BUT HOW YOU TREAT PEOPLE DOES.
Respond in kindness.
You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things.